Advice for Girls

I read an article called "Catholic Advice for Every Girl" from life teen and although there's nothing I haven't heard before, somehow it speaks very well to me. It has 7 advice, but here are 3 that I really like. For the complete awesomeness, do go to the lifeteen source :) I like them because they are very relatable, common sense inputs, that normally got ignored.

I’m Emotional

Emotions are not bad, but don’t let them control you. If you’re sad, cry. If you’re angry, let it out in a healthy way (like exercise, or venting on paper). If you’re happy and you know it shout “hurray.” That idea is not original, actually.

The point is, don’t bottle up your emotions inside because later they’ll explode. Trust me, I did it all the time – both the bottling and the exploding part. Being a woman means feeling a lot of different emotions. We get kind of a bad rap for that. But we don’t have too!

You have the power to use your emotions for good. When you’re upset about something, ask God to comfort you and heal the wound. In the future you’ll be a more compassionate and empathetic person because you know what it’s like to hurt. Instead of acting out against someone when they make you angry, take just 10 seconds to cool off before you say something you’ll regret.

Don’t let your emotions control you – there’s a strong woman beneath that emotion and a wiser woman after that emotion.

Did You Hear?

Don’t gossip and try not to listen to gossip. Every time I do, I feel terrible afterwards.

Picture this:

What if I spill some nasty rumor I heard about a guy named Phil to my friend Emma. Before, Emma never thought badly of Phil or questioned his motive for something. Now though, every time she sees him, she thinks of what I told her and can’t help but think of Phil in an uncharitable way. And who’s fault is that? It’s my fault for introducing those mean thoughts.

There are so many people hurt by gossip. You hurt yourself, those you gossip to, and those you’re talking about. Once a priest told me, “Don’t talk about other people’s issues or problems unless you have a serious reason or need to do something constructive about it.”

Wait For It

So I can’t finish this advice without talking about boys. If I could tell you girls one thing, it would be this – wait for the man who God intended for you.

Try not to just date so that you won’t be lonely. Date someone who respects you. Dating can be a great way to understand guys better – how they think, how to communicate with them . . . etc. When you meet your future husband do you want to tell him all the guys you’ve screwed around with, or tell him about the guys who’ve helped you become a better person? There’s a big difference.

Don’t forget though that it’s never too late to recommit to purity. When we’re forgiven by God, the past is forgotten. He said, “Behold, I make all things new.